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We thought we smelled piss. Then we realized why he always brings a backpack over and wears my son’s clothes home.

We lifted the futon mattress where he usually sleeps and it is soaked through with piss and it has turned to mold. It’s ruined.

WTF


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PostPosted: Thu Oct 12, 2017 10:42 am 
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I’ll let the experts weigh in, but isn’t that generally a rather concerning thing at that age?


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PostPosted: Thu Oct 12, 2017 10:43 am 
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I’d think so.


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how many times has this kid pissed that futon?


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dang...the physical act of doing that at that age is one thing..but can be dealt with. continually doing it at your house and not mentioning it is another and THAT'S kinda the fucked up part.


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how many times has this kid pissed that futon?

Enough for this to happen.

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kids being perfectly potty trained and then regressing is typically indicative of some kind of trauma


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My nephew wasn't that old but he and I think a lot of boys have issues at that age range. Something just doesn't connect right and they either have no idea they are peeing or by time they realize it they're too late. I think my nephew had issues where he would pee in his dreams and also in real life.


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Have your kid start telling other kids at school and he will learn you found out via grassroots movement


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I had drunkard friends in college who pissed the bed.

Maybe he's a closet drunk? J/K

Have you talked to the parents about it?


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dang...the physical act of doing that at that age is one thing..but can be dealt with. continually doing it at your house and not mentioning it is another and THAT'S kinda the fucked up part.


It's unfortunate but can you imagine the level of shame? At 13? Crippling embarrassment I'd think.

I can see why he wasn't admitting it. I think the kid deserves some sympathy here and I'd probably just get a water proof liner for the new futon.


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how often is this kid sleeping at your house where he creates a futon with that kind of growth?

there's a problem either way, but he's probably just lazy.


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He’d sleep over often in he summer. Now it’s every other weekend.


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Next time his parents have people over piss in a closet.


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Your kid know? He ever ask why his friend is always borrowing clothes?


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Poppys a little sloppy


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just talk to him privately and tell the friend to make sure he's relieving himself enough before bed and ask if everything is cool


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13? Maybe it's not pee........

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joeblowssnow wrote:
kids being perfectly potty trained and then regressing is typically indicative of some kind of trauma



this was what i thought and the expert opinion i was reffering to...


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I remember watching those movies in 5th grade. think they were produced by Disney. kid wakes up with sticky stuff in his pajamas.


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joeblowssnow wrote:
kids being perfectly potty trained and then regressing is typically indicative of some kind of trauma


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but he's probably just lazy.

:facepalm4:


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joeblowssnow wrote:
kids being perfectly potty trained and then regressing is typically indicative of some kind of trauma



this was what i thought and the expert opinion i was reffering to...

Maybe. He’s the kid that will do shit for attention. Hang from a high branch with one hand. Flash a bunch of money and buy everyone candy. I always feel like he’s going to be the kid that tries to see how far he can drive with his eyes shut.

His mom is nice. Don’t know a thing about the dad or where he is. There is an older brother that was kicked out for reasons I don't know.


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ask him to buy me candy for my next chose one thread?


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ask him to buy me candy for my next chose one thread?

there’s gonna be more?

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you say that...but i know you love them


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ask him to buy me candy for my next chose one thread?

Laffy Taffy, Mike & Ikes (tropical, I think), candy corn


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maki wrote:
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kids being perfectly potty trained and then regressing is typically indicative of some kind of trauma

This. And I guarantee no one is more embarrassed by it than him and he's afraid to say anything. This is likely the result of a serious issue. What are the parents like?

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nevermind... see your next post about the parents.

the attention seeking behavior. if it really is that, could be related to the trauma as well. I wouldn't be annoyed by this kid. I'd be concerned for him

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Berks wrote:
maki wrote:
joeblowssnow wrote:
kids being perfectly potty trained and then regressing is typically indicative of some kind of trauma

This. And I guarantee no one is more embarrassed by it than him and he's afraid to say anything. This is likely the result of a serious issue. What are the parents like?


And what is the bed situation at their house?


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Berks wrote:
nevermind... see your next post about the parents.

the attention seeking behavior. if it really is that, could be related to the trauma as well. I wouldn't be annoyed by this kid. I'd be concerned for him

bingo.


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Berks wrote:
nevermind... see your next post about the parents.

the attention seeking behavior. if it really is that, could be related to the trauma as well. I wouldn't be annoyed by this kid. I'd be concerned for him

bingo.


And the brother was “kicked out for reasons unknown.” also sounds like something deeper. I feel bad for this kid. Something sounds up.


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maybe its a medical condition, kid taking any drugs?


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Came in to say pretty much what JBS and Berks said. I had experience exactly like this with a friend from across the street growin up. She would always sleep at my house and always wet the bed and when we were older she would want to role play sexual games.
Her adoptive father was sexually molesting her for god knows how long. It was a terrible story and I'm only sharing it to express urgency in helping this child.
Call social services.

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Something is clearly not OK. It could be a past trauma. It could be ongoing. It might even be possible that your home is a safe place for him. I’m wondering what you could do to help support him.
Toss the mattress, replace it, and get some sort of waterproof mattress cover.
You could make some clean clothes available to him That he can access independently and a clothes hamper specifically for him to discard soiled sheets. Discuss the bed wetting with him once and leave it alone.
Beyond that, maybe just check in on him with some frequency. “Hey are you doing OK? We’re here for you if you need anything or want to talk.”


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Kids piss the bed at all sorts of crazy ages without being abused or suffering trauma. Lol at all the psychs in this thread.


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Ugh.


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420ibanez wrote:
Kids piss the bed at all sorts of crazy ages without being abused or suffering trauma. Lol at all the psychs in this thread.



great point ibanez. sounds like its case closed


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420ibanez wrote:
Kids piss the bed at all sorts of crazy ages without being abused or suffering trauma. Lol at all the psychs in this thread.

Correct. But if it's a regular issue for this boy, he would have come up with ways to deal with it better. He clearly can't help it and doesn't realize when its happening.
I mean, he's 13 and it happens every time.

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Did you try rubbing his face in it?

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I think you're suppose to show him the futon then bring him to the bathroom.


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MikeCotton wrote:
maybe its a medical condition, kid taking any drugs?



Nocturnal enuresis could be caused by behavior (not peeing enough before bed), high levels of stress or anxiety (usually a response to trauma), or an underlying physical issue (the bladder doesn't completely fill or a UTI). In any case its an accident and embarrassing for the child. Depending on how long it's been going on, my money on it being an issue at this age without it having been addressed is that it's a psychological issue.

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MikeCotton wrote:
I think you're suppose to show him the futon then bring him to the bathroom.


Squirt him with a squirt bottle.

Or maybe he just needs...

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I loved how ibonerz420 came steamrolling in brushing it off and loling at people who are literally trained in and work in this field on a daily basis. Not to mention fee's corroborating anecdote.

Whatta choad.

Yeah, sure, it might be just a random thing. We all hope so.

Of course it might also be something more as decades of research and experience in the field has confirmed.


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cpj wrote:
but he's probably just lazy.

:facepalm4:


I like how I get a facepalm, yet you know literally nothing about this child other than a few sentences that simone posted.

Not every kid pissing the bed at 13 has some sort of "trauma" in their life.

Like, super LOL at you getting all high and mighty over this. You know nothing bout dude. So, you passing judgment on his is just as bad.


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You still pissing the bed, cpj?

Seem awful angry here.


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Berks wrote:
nevermind... see your next post about the parents.

the attention seeking behavior. if it really is that, could be related to the trauma as well. I wouldn't be annoyed by this kid. I'd be concerned for him

We are both annoyed and concerned.

My son says the friend’s bed looks like the photo above.

Someone said something about our home being a safe space. Maybe. There were a few times he wanted to come over. My son was doing chores. We told him if he comes over he’ll be doing chores too. He said ok.


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Who does he seem to have more of a connection with, you or your wife?

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