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PostPosted: Tue Feb 13, 2018 1:58 pm 
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Since I hit my mid 30's, people around me are dying more and more. Just read 15 minutes ago that a friend's Dad had a heart attack in his truck last night and died. Some days I can keep going without thinking about death, even after reading/seeing(social media) about death, but some days I get freaked the fuck out that I didn't do anything I feel proud about. Is this what a mid life crisis is ? :frantic:


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PostPosted: Tue Feb 13, 2018 2:00 pm 
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Mortality constantly since as long as I can remember. Legacy... hardly ever.


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PostPosted: Tue Feb 13, 2018 2:03 pm 
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the thought comes into mind much more often since having my Son and putting a lot of things that were my own interests and goals on pause. now its all about him. and i love him for that, because it makes me care less about whatever ego i had. now i just put my effort into being a good dad and catering to his needs, carve out some time for myself every week or two to satisfy interests in music or skiing or whatever, but then back to earth is just focusing on my role as Dad

that's my legacy, even if I don't do much else, i'm coming to terms with this reality being a fulfilling one the more my son develops into an awesome person

also, fuck off


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Im burying people I care about at a pretty quick clip the last five years.

My kegacy( not that it will matter) I’m fine with. I’ve been good and decent to everyone and have done my best to leave the planet as clean as I can for a human.

My crises which Gids and I discussed at length last night is that my (our) destination bucket list for hiking, birding, food touring, paddling/peddling has gone from a hundred in my teens, to dozens in my thirties to just a few at this point.

It seems so unfair at times but we still view the glass as half full.

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PostPosted: Tue Feb 13, 2018 2:06 pm 
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More than I should. I feel like I’m not living the life I should be and am way too hard on myself.


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PostPosted: Tue Feb 13, 2018 2:06 pm 
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mortality= inevitable
legacy= cemented

life is rad. i dont think about when it will end/ how people will think of me after


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PostPosted: Tue Feb 13, 2018 2:07 pm 
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Jammin72 wrote:
Mortality constantly since as long as I can remember. Legacy... hardly ever.

This.

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PostPosted: Tue Feb 13, 2018 2:08 pm 
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Everyone going to die eventually. Everyone you know and love will one day be gone. That isn’t worth worrying about to me.

I believe strongly in circles of control. If it is within my circle of control. I do my best to affect it positively. If it’s outside of it? I let it go.

Death just doesn’t interest me. I mean at the end of the day we will all be dead longer than we will be alive. So it’s kind of meaningless. And usually dying happens quick

You come from nothing to go back to nothing. What have you lost? Nothing!!

Fuck it let’s have a beer.

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PostPosted: Tue Feb 13, 2018 2:09 pm 
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Trout, has anyone you are really close to that wasn't old died? (you don't have to answer that)

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PostPosted: Tue Feb 13, 2018 2:10 pm 
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Mortality? Yes. Recent health issues have not helped.

Legacy? I really don't know. I like to think I've been a decent person. Other's opinions may vary.

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PostPosted: Tue Feb 13, 2018 2:15 pm 
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Mortality, sure. I've occasionally wondered how much pain/suffering my death will involve, and what will happen after.

Legacy? Who gives a flying fuck. That's ego shit.


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PostPosted: Tue Feb 13, 2018 2:18 pm 
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I'm not into having a family, but I totally get the kids thing now. It took 16 years of watching my best friend raise 2 girls, but I got it.


The bucket list thing is always in the back of my mind and it went from many things to really nothing at all. I'm on this way of thinking that you don't need a destination to make something special. I forced a few vacations/concerts in hopes of happiness. I don't want to do that anymore. Do the right things with what you have.


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Kanye_West wrote:
I'm not into having a family, but I totally get the kids thing now. It took 16 years of watching my best friend raise 2 girls, but I got it.


The bucket list thing is always in the back of my mind and it went from many things to really nothing at all. I'm on this way of thinking that you don't need a destination to make something special. I forced a few vacations/concerts in hopes of happiness. I don't want to do that anymore. Do the right things with what you have.


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PostPosted: Tue Feb 13, 2018 2:22 pm 
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Everything is fleeting, do what you can but don't stress yourself out too much over it


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Thank you bearcobb


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PostPosted: Tue Feb 13, 2018 2:25 pm 
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mr_bearcobb wrote:
Everything is fleeting, do what you can but don't stress yourself out too much over it


Great advice. But... some folks are just wired that way, others... not so much.


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jakqlin wrote:
Trout, has anyone you are really close to that wasn't old died? (you don't have to answer that)


If I don’t have to answer it why ask?

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browntrout wrote:
jakqlin wrote:
Trout, has anyone you are really close to that wasn't old died? (you don't have to answer that)


If I don’t have to answer it why ask?



Because you may want to, you may not...

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PostPosted: Tue Feb 13, 2018 2:34 pm 
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Kanye_West wrote:

The bucket list thing is always in the back of my mind and it went from many things to really nothing at all. I'm on this way of thinking that you don't need a destination to make something special. I forced a few vacations/concerts in hopes of happiness. I don't want to do that anymore. Do the right things with what you have.

Bucket list doesn't have to be travelling. It can be trying something new, learning a new skill, developing a new hobby, etc.


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The only time I ever think of mortality is when I think of all the places I want to see before I die. Other than that, not at all.

Legacy, I don’t think about at all.


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Good Question. It's weird how much I've become my father. My sons are 3.5 years and 6 months old. And I frame both my mortality and my legacy based on my family. If I were to kick it today, my kids response to "Do you remember your father" would be "a little, I remember he would (insert something meaningless here) alot. " and later my wife would reference things they do and say something like "your father did that". I recently had the epiphany that it's my most important job to instill in them the fundamentals of being a good person. Start with the basics.

My wife hates thinking about mortality. She was practically catatonic writing our wills. She was shaking fearing that what was in this envelope was the culmination of our lives. Our lawyer had to remind her it' not and we're free to write letters to people and put them in a drawer.

As for my legacy, I think it was really strong before I had a family. I think since I've been lazy on my ambitions and being object of positive force and an all round good friend. I need to work on that and will probably get back on track when the kids get a little older and I can be there for my friends. I feel like that's where my legacy is going to lie.

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Mortality: every day or every other day
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For the last two years I’ve been designing my own hermitcally sealed pyramid that I will hire illegal immigrants to build.


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I figure i have 25 more years at the most. (85)
My kids know that I love them more than anything.
That's all I need.


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Mortality yes. With my genetics, making it past 70 is unlikely, and if I do, it will be on aftermarket parts. I kinda wanna flame out before that.

Legacy. Not really. Outside of here will I even have one?

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Mortality, rarely. Legacy, lol.


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PostPosted: Tue Feb 13, 2018 8:31 pm 
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id like to die after my parents and grandparents die.
i don't spend any time thinking about my own death.

i worry about my grandparents dying but I'm pretty obsessed with them.


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grandparents are special
or they can be I guess


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I was out of grandparents by middle school

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Do not give a single fuck about any legacy.

Dying doesn’t seem awesome. I don’t feel particularly fearful of death itself but the dying part usually involves some suckage.


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pishsucks wrote:
id like to die after my parents and grandparents die.
i don't spend any time thinking about my own death.

i worry about my grandparents dying but I'm pretty obsessed with them.

I was obsessed with mine as well and still go back to their sick days as some of the saddest of my life. I miss them. So much.


(I did not offer any light at the end of your worry. Sorry. )


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Man, very sorry, fee.

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Mortality constantly since as long as I can remember. Legacy... hardly ever.


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Mortality - yes, all the time.

Legacy - that's what life insurance is for.


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mortality: I feel like I want to live healthily till my nineties, but I could get hit by a wrong way drunk driver tomorrow.

legacy: sometimes I think about whether or not I have left any sort of mark in this world, and I think I will be pretty satisfied if my two daughters grow up knowing how loved they are/were and they can always look back at a happy childhood where they were provided for and had a good foundation to build on for adulthood.


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