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PostPosted: Thu Oct 12, 2017 6:43 pm 
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I know a lot people routinely go to visit the grave of a deceased friend or family member, some routinely.

For me personally, it’s completely not something I do... tbh, I don’t even believe in funerals.

I certainly don’t think badly of the practice or anyone who does it, I just find it curious... it doesn’t really make sense to me. I suppose it’s to try to feel closer to the deceased person? But to me, whatever is buried in the ground has nothing to do with the actual person, or who they were. It seems to be a very strange custom, for me at least.

What are your thoughts?


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PostPosted: Thu Oct 12, 2017 6:45 pm 
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i have visited one grave in my entire life


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Yes. That is the point of having a head stone


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all of my grandparents are in mausoleums. i’ve only been when they were interred

places weird me the fuck out


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PostPosted: Thu Oct 12, 2017 6:48 pm 
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The only graves I've ever visited were a few famous people & Arlington national cemetery. There are a few memorials to people I've lost that I visit whenever I get the chance.


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Love graveyards. Grew up right across the street from one. Cheers'd the dead souls many times.


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I went to Jim Morrison’s grave in Paris. That’s honestly the only time i’ve Ever been.


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PostPosted: Thu Oct 12, 2017 7:09 pm 
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I do find very old graveyards interesting but more for their “uniqueness” than anything else. Just visiting the grave of someone I knew though, not so much.


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PostPosted: Thu Oct 12, 2017 7:12 pm 
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A few years back I went and visited my parents graves
Wasn’t sure what to expect, just kind of talked to them and that was it. Wasn’t cathartic, a little weirdaybe.

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PostPosted: Thu Oct 12, 2017 7:12 pm 
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You'd think so, but no. I rarely go.

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PostPosted: Thu Oct 12, 2017 7:14 pm 
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theotherone13 wrote:
But to me, whatever is buried in the ground has nothing to do with the actual person, or who they were.


...what?
That is literally what is being buried.


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she means the spirit and soul bro

you clearly are not as spiritual as tsh

bet yure not even an old soul

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Lol


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PostPosted: Thu Oct 12, 2017 7:18 pm 
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moose_man9 wrote:
i have visited one grave in my entire life


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PostPosted: Thu Oct 12, 2017 7:26 pm 
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moose_man9 wrote:
she means the spirit and soul bro


Yes. Decaying bones or ashes buried underground has nothing to do with who the person was or why you cared for them.


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PostPosted: Thu Oct 12, 2017 7:27 pm 
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But it’s a place to be with them and have dedicated time to think about them

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PostPosted: Thu Oct 12, 2017 7:31 pm 
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Reverend_Jim wrote:
But it’s a place to be with them and have dedicated time to think about them


Right on Rev. I stop by my grandparents graves when I am in that area. My kids never met any of them so they feel a bond seeing where their great grandparents are buried.


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I live directly across the street from a graveyard.
Makes for quiet neighbors.

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PostPosted: Thu Oct 12, 2017 7:37 pm 
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I don’t.

I have gone with my gf once to see where her grandparents were buried.

My grandparents used to go around every Memorial Day and plant flowers at the graves.

My mom goes to my grandfather’s every now and then.


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I hear people are dying to get in there

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Reverend_Jim wrote:
I hear people are dying to get in there



Sad to admit I chuckled lol


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It’s the one and only joke I remember my dad telling

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Lol

My exact thought was “such a dad joke”


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This is why I want to be cremated and tossed into the Chesapeake Bay from a pier that is an important place for me.
Perhaps people look at the bay and maybe think of me. No need to go to see my gravestone.

That said, I have gone back to certain people, like my Dad and a few friends.
Not a fan usually.

However, when I lived in Staunton, VA the Thornrose cemetery had the best fall tree colors.
Plus there was history and some interesting headstones and structures.


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PostPosted: Thu Oct 12, 2017 8:01 pm 
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I don't know anybody buried


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theotherone13 wrote:
moose_man9 wrote:
she means the spirit and soul bro


Yes. Decaying bones or ashes buried underground has nothing to do with who the person was or why you cared for them.


The soul and the physical body together are what the person was. Death is the absence of both, their heart stops beating and the soul leaves. Their remains are the only tangible thing left behind that was truly the person.

The point of the funeral is to honor, respect, and mourn the loss of the person (both soul and body). And to give the remains a resting place, that can be visited (where you can better reconnect with the lost one, because the physical space can be occupied by both you, and the deceased' remains). The person who passed was more than those remains. They left lasting impressions and memories in others lives. The person was actions and decisions, thoughts and feelings, those are lost when the individual is.


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This is why I want to be cremated and tossed into the Chesapeake Bay from a pier that is an important place for me.
Perhaps people look at the bay and maybe think of me. No need to go to see my gravestone.

That said, I have gone back to certain people, like my Dad and a few friends.
Not a fan usually.

However, when I lived in Staunton, VA the Thornrose cemetery had the best fall tree colors.
Plus there was history and some interesting headstones and structures.
One time I wandered to see the oldest headstone I could.

The rest was photographs of trees,
Even did audio of the birds one Sunday morning as they opened it up.


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i'm a big fan of walking around cemeteries. as for visiting an individual grave, not really.


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last town we lived in, one of our walks would go right through this old cemetery. Was pretty cool, a lot of the graves were really old, early 1800's and the like.

as for family, they are buried in my birthplace, which is over an hour away. Never think to go there. Don't know if that will change when my parents pass.


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bytor wrote:
This is why I want to be cremated and tossed into the Chesapeake Bay from a pier that is an important place for me.
Perhaps people look at the bay and maybe think of me. No need to go to see my gravestone.

That said, I have gone back to certain people, like my Dad and a few friends.
Not a fan usually.

However, when I lived in Staunton, VA the Thornrose cemetery had the best fall tree colors.
Plus there was history and some interesting headstones and structures.
One time I wandered to see the oldest headstone I could.

The rest was photographs of trees,
Even did audio of the birds one Sunday morning as they opened it up.


Love this.


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Whenever I pass through Missouri I stop by my grandparents grave. Place some flowers. Clean it up. It's a respect thing and to remind myself I came from genuinely nice gentle people and strive to be like my roots


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moose_man9 wrote:
i have visited one grave in my entire life


Me too.
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theres more of gravy than of grave to you, sir


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