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PostPosted: Thu Dec 07, 2017 11:01 am 
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Making the separation officially official.
It’s a mere formality, but I’m nonetheless anxiety-ridden about it. I got the shakes and everything.

Heavy Shit Thursday

At least I took the entire day off.
Gonna go right home and have a morning drink.


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PostPosted: Thu Dec 07, 2017 11:02 am 
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PostPosted: Thu Dec 07, 2017 11:07 am 
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Breathe. Try to stay calm.

What's going to happen is what's going to happen.

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Bummer Man...

Relax, it'll make dealing with everything that much easier.


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Damn man I am sorry to hear it. Good luck.

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separation or divorce? why a formal process?


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PostPosted: Thu Dec 07, 2017 11:13 am 
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Warpar_01 wrote:
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PostPosted: Thu Dec 07, 2017 11:15 am 
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Vibes pottery

vibes.
but you wouldnt be in this position if it wasn't going to ultimately benefit you, right? try and see the upside of the growth that's to come?
still, vibes.

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PostPosted: Thu Dec 07, 2017 11:18 am 
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A new era for the pottery man starts today.
Vibes man.


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PostPosted: Thu Dec 07, 2017 11:19 am 
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There are so many good things on your horizon. Limitless.


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PostPosted: Thu Dec 07, 2017 11:20 am 
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I'm not sure what is going to happen to you but my separation/divorce in the end seems to be one of the best things that happened to me. It started a chain of events that led to a better life for me and my children. Never would have thunk it. In any case I certainly understand the anxiety that can hit you when something like a court date makes the real seem that much more real. And then you have the fear of what is going to or could happen. Chances are the worst you think could happen won't. It will be something you never expected. The reinvention process of a separation is always good for tragedy, boredom, comedy and so on. If you can stay centered in the moment you might even find that you enjoy a life that will soon be open to so much possibility.

Vibes bro!


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Thoughts and Vibes your way. New Chapters entering into 2018

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PostPosted: Thu Dec 07, 2017 11:27 am 
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blukarma wrote:
separation or divorce? why a formal process?



It’s a legal necessity in SC-

We separated on 7/21, but it’s only now that we had a court date to make it legal in the eyes of the court. We are now, oh, I guess we’re no longer legally tied to one another (mostly for financial purposes).

After a minimum of one year’s separation we will legally file for divorce, then wait for a court date, then it’s over.

Yes, this is a step towards a better life.
There’s no real reason I was so anxious (we’re done, I’m having a bagel at my favorite place before heading on home).


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PostPosted: Thu Dec 07, 2017 11:28 am 
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theowing some good thought at you mannnnnn.....


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PostPosted: Thu Dec 07, 2017 11:29 am 
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Lots of good vibes to you pottery!


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Wait...you have to stay married but separated for a year before you can divorce?

WTF

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BonnieLee wrote:
Wait...you have to stay married but separated for a year before you can divorce?

WTF

The south.......you know the rest.


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BonnieLee wrote:
Wait...you have to stay married but separated for a year before you can divorce?

WTF

How antiquated


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What I’m looking forward to more than anything else is getting out of my crappy little temp apt and buying my own house-


With a studio
And a yard
And home improvement projects
AND A FUCKING WASHER AND DRYER!


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yeah, i didnt have to do anything like that

and im so glad, it was a tough day anyway

good luck today, pottery.

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PostPosted: Thu Dec 07, 2017 11:35 am 
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Vibes Potts. Some great input in this thread.


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ILL wrote:
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Wait...you have to stay married but separated for a year before you can divorce?

WTF

The south.......you know the rest.


I'm much more southern than south Carolina and I didn't have anything like that with my divorce

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ILL wrote:
BonnieLee wrote:
Wait...you have to stay married but separated for a year before you can divorce?

WTF

The south.......you know the rest.


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The year thing is not required in PA, but I know its required in Maryland. Again south of the Mason Dixon Line, so "the south" :lol:


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PostPosted: Thu Dec 07, 2017 11:41 am 
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I need another coffee cup... chop chop asshole.


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ILL wrote:
A new era for the pottery man starts today.
Vibes man.

This.

You got this.

~vibez~


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Sorry for the forced delay, but congrats on moving towards a new life.


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Glad to hear you got through the court part. And sounds like you are moving on in a positive way. Still sending vibes because I'm sure none of this is easy... or pleasant. I truly hope it's all better things for you from here.


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This!

I’m home, got two different art projects going (refinishing a cool old table with collaged parts of my old comic books, and a wall piece I’m making for my daughter for her room for xmas), gonna opt out the morning beer and have some quality art time (alcohol inhibits that, but tubes do not) make the most of my afternoon off.


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Vibes man. Remember it's all about the kids. Make sure they know you both love them and it's not their fault. Fight to stay in their life. Encourage a relationship with their mom and you.

Uhg. It's a hard process that I hope gets your family to a better place.


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Washington State the delay is 90 days.
1 year seems excessive.


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Vibes and sending happiness your way.


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I’m so sorry that you and your family have to go through this. My grandfather once said to me, that it fits best for your children, then it is best for yourself. I know you’re strong, and I believe in you.

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Vibes man. Remember it's all about the kids. Make sure they know you both love them and it's not their fault. Fight to stay in their life. Encourage a relationship with their mom and you.

Uhg. It's a hard process that I hope gets your family to a better place.


One kid, 16 year old daughter.
She sees us both very regularly, there’s no tension in that area. The separation is amicable, uncontested, we both agree on everything, and our daughter is doing well with it. We have joint custody, although while I’m in a little apt she lives with her mom. It’s the most comfortable, least disruptive arrangement for now. I live very close.

When I get a house she’ll have a room, with her own furniture and stuff, and she’ll stay with me on a regular basis.


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phellow wrote:
Washington State the delay is 90 days.
1 year seems excessive.

feel like it's one year in many places. definitely is in maryland.

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Doesn't anyone care about my coffee cup?


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ILL wrote:
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Wait...you have to stay married but separated for a year before you can divorce?

WTF

The south.......you know the rest.


A deterrent for divorce if you change your mind


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Lots of good vibes to you pottery!

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Doesn't anyone care about my coffee cup?


i'm here for you.


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Hope everything went as well as it could man.


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not gonna lie, I entered the thread hoping for a Manmalcahey melt

vibes pottery, hope it all works out


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Good vibes bro. I know it’s been awhile coming. Best wishes for your family.

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The year thing is not required in PA, but I know its required in Maryland.


Not any more if there are no kids and you can agree on splitting property. That took effect literally a few weeks after my bf's one-year separation was over, which effectively doubled how long they were married. It was dumb

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He's gone. I chased him away :lol:


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just like I didn't get a second coffee cup.


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